Tis the season where we women are busily working to find the right gift for all of our loved ones. Personally, nothing makes me happier than giving someone the perfect present. However, when someone you love has been diagnosed with cancer knowing what to give them can be incredibly challenging. Thoughts of “What can I do? How can I help? What do they need?” are of course accompanied with “What can I give them?”
My beautiful Aunt Pam recently found out that she will have to start treatment for breast cancer in mid December and aside from the usual baked goods, scented candle or framed photos of her great niece and nephews, there will be something more for her under the tree.
I know many of my loved ones found it hard to find the right words to say, let alone the right things to do or give to me during this time. What can you give to a person with cancer to show you truly care?
In addition to spending quality time and showing your support, here are some beautiful and practical suggestions designed to ease the side effects of cancer treatment or simply to show you care.
Look Good…Feel Better
It is very common for women to experience hair thinning or chemotherapy-related hair loss during cancer treatment. Wigs can be very uncomfortable and itchy. Colorful hats and scarves and our collection of hats with halo wigs can keep her covered up in style.
Comfort is Caring
Undergoing treatment for cancer can be very harsh and affects patients not only physically but emotionally. Being able to lift someone's spirits or alleviate some of their discomfort, even for a short time, is a wonderful gift. Consider a pair of luxuriously soft and moisture-wicking pajamas to help with night-sweats that can be a common side-effect from chemotherapy. A comfortable robe or a cozy and luxurious shawl in a bright cheery colour are great options to wrap her in love and comfort.
Good Things Come in Small Packages
While going though my treatment, one of my friends gave me a lovely pair of earrings and explained that when her sister lost her hair, a little "bling" on her ears lifted her spirits and made her feel pretty. I loved those earrings and wore them often throughout my treatment. A meaningful bracelet, pair of earrings or necklace to show someone you are thinking about them is a wonderful idea. Many jewellery pieces can be found with healing crystals and/or an inspirational sentiment of strength and protection. Rose Quartz, for example, is a stone of the heart and symbolizes universal love. It speaks directly to the Heart Chakra, dissolving fears, negativity and stress, and circulates a loving energy.
Victory Necklace Amethyst Earrings Rose Quartz Bracelet
Let Her Decide
You lose so much control when battling cancer. Your body has betrayed you and you are a slave to appointments and treatments. I really appreciated my friends that did not pretend they knew what I needed or how to make it better. Gift certificates were a welcome and thoughtful gift. Whether it be a card from Amazon for picking out some books, a coupon to my favourite restaurant when I was feeling up for a date night with my husband or a day at the spa when I was in need of some pampering; whatever it was, I appreciated having the ability to select some lovely things just for me.
Finally, remember that supporting your loved one going through cancer goes far behind gifts. Your time and friendship are the greatest treasures. Don't shy away from reaching out or stopping in to let your friends know you are thinking of them and are there for them when they need you.